Dear Soulmate,
How do you go from simply introducing yourself to someone to being in a relationship with them?
I often wonder this when I pass happy couples holding hands and laughing. I suppose the easiest answer to my question would be ‘time.’ But it’s much more than that. It’s a complicated web of emotions, a mind-boggling analysis of body language, a heart-racing interpretation of chemistry, and a host of other factors.
Though it’s easy to pick up a relationship how-to guidebook or simply observe people’s interactions, I wonder if we are all just putting off the inevitable- just saying, “I like you.”
I look back at all my other realtionships and they have stemmed from a commonality- being at the same place at the same time. The majority of myrelationships were built upon a careful construction of friendship and attraction simply by getting used to that other person.
But I wonder, how many people just bypassed all the courtship and cut right to the chase. Why not just tell someone you are interested in them? I give this advice to my friends all the time- even if they are unaware if he or she already has a girlfirend or boyfriend.
And I wonder, how will we meet? Will it develop over a period of time, while knowing all along that we are right for each other? Or will it be instant? I am not sure which one is better and doubt if one method is more successful over the other.
But rather than delay the inevitable, think about how much easier it would be to just say, “I think I like you?”
And now, as I consider doing just the same to the boy I have referred to as ‘Thursday,’ I realize how much fun the alternative is.
And so once more I stand hopeful on the edge of love- wondering where it may take me.
Love, R